When your life turns upside down because of loss, where does your mind go next naturally? You would think it would go to the loss.
And yes it does, but when that loss is too painful, it goes somewhere far away.
It goes somewhere where the pain can’t find it.
It searches for a new frontier.
My mind started to travel to space, galaxies, and a place far away from earth.
Where everything is possible and everything is unknown.
And as the years went by I found my mind being open to something much greater.
It was not because I wanted to escape, but because my soul expanded its reach so much after my tragedies.
Grief could not imprison it.
Grief could not hold it down and control its reach.
My mind still has the power to find its way out of the insanity of loss.
As a matter of fact it was the reason for the vast journey I have taken with all of you.
Call me crazy and maybe I am, but today I want to help your mind travel to a bigger world than this one.
To find a place where pain is not seen, felt or known.
To discover a star, a new moon and the infinite possibility of life.
When my husband died, there was a tombstone very close to his of a 17-year-old boy who died in a tragic accident.
His parents wrote something so beautiful on his tombstone.
We will see you again in other lives under many different suns.
I would walk by these words every day and I felt these words were written for me.
I read them every day that first year, and my mind and heart would breathe again for a few moments.
Today, I will ask you to find your loss in your mind and then walk further away from it.
Let your thoughts go to a place you love.
Let it travel to your favorite beach, to a place where you want to go next.
Look at pictures of a far away land.
Take your mind on a journey exploring new places, and find a moment where your mind will be captured in awe.
Yes there is awe after loss.
Yes there is beauty after loss, and our mind can find its way there better than you can imagine.
And if you are like me…tonight walk outside of your house, maybe walk out to your backyard and look up.
Look up at the stars, and imagine all the worlds that are possible out there.
Imagine the unimaginable.
Breathe life into your life.
And know that no matter what has happened, no matter what heartbreaks you have felt, they are here to guide you to the most far away worlds where everything is possible. And if the sky is not where you want to go find a new place you want to visit.
Put it on the calendar and make it happen.
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