“The intention should not be to go and look for love after loss, but to seek to bring yourself back to life.”

– Christina Rasmussen

No More Lies After Loss

‘The Life we live, is the lesson we teach’ my friend Jim Kwik mentioned in one of his writings. I read it just before I was going to sit down and write to you. And it hit me. The life I live. Is the lesson I teach. Thank you Jim, for putting it so simply. As it allowed me to come clean with myself. And you might be wondering, what does this have to do with loss? Everything. Really,…

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Loss of Connection Does Not Mean Loss of Love

It is in the gathering of our family and friends that we see ourselves. It is at the dinner table and the get togethers that we realize we are not alike. It is then, when you learn the most about yourself. You learn that you have changed. You observe that you are not as alike as you used to be. This seeing does not have to be painful. Expect to see more of what has changed in you when others…

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Romance May Not Be the Answer after Loss

Maybe I should talk about him more. The man who is now my husband. Maybe I should tell you about how I fell in love. Maybe I should talk about romance, dating and all the things that people confuse with true life reentry after loss. Maybe it is a disservice to you that I never really talk about finding a partner again. Maybe I should just join the thousands of authors that teach people how to…

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Choose the Red Shoes

Life Reentry after loss is risky. Yup, it is. But it's even riskier not doing so. Regrets are tough. Mistakes are easier. We can learn from our mistakes but there is not much we can get out of regrets. (Click to Tweet!) Please go out into the world. Take small risks. Give yourself back to life. Every day. And you know what? I tell myself the same thing. Go out into the wild. Go to…

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Look for Your Future Person

Lately, I have been talking a lot about love. I don’t normally. Not because there is anything wrong with loving again after loss but I deeply believe that Life Reentry™ after loss has to do with our whole self reemerging and not just finding one person to love. So, I often stay away from writing about it. But even though that is the main principle I live my life by I also believe that loving…

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Go beyond Your Broken Heart

Sometimes I want to get up and start screaming, so we can wake up from the sleep we are all under. Yes, I say we, this includes me too. Why do we have to have a tragic experience to be awakened? Why do we have to be shaken to our core to change the channel we are watching? Why do we have to witness death so we can feel alive? I wish I could show you your wholeness even when you are broken.…

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The Reentry Lipstick

Today I don’t want to talk about the Holidays. Everyone else is talking about it. So I won’t do that. People like us have a different timetable when it comes to the holidays. We don't really want them to be here and we behave in ways others don't during it. I would rather focus on our new life and identity than the Christmas tree. So...as I was driving yesterday back from my hiking I stopped at a…

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Sing Along with Frank

“Well, Marianne, it’s come to this time when we are really so old and our bodies are falling apart and I think I will follow you very soon. Know that I am so close behind you that if you stretch out your hand, I think you reach mine...” wrote Canadian wordsmith Leonard Cohen in the New Yorker this week about his failing health and the love of his life passing away. I am so close behind you...that…

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Close Your Eyes

Close Your Eyes

As I am getting ready to write my next book I am immersed into hundreds of books searching for timeless wisdom, wisdom that matches my perception of grief. The ability to allow a view of grief that shows you the real experience of loss. What is the real experience of loss? Where does this very intense pain come from? The pain of loss comes from a timeless place where you have known the person you…

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Let Go of the People Who Make You Feel Hard to Love

So, here’s the deal. You should no longer have anyone in your life that you feel like you have to make them like you. That every time you see them you have to work so hard to look good, say the right words and keep up with their journey. If you do have people like this in your life, stop right now. These people you feel you have to impress are not supposed to be in your life. You should not feel…

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