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When Grief Causes Guilt

18 months ago, I didn’t think my friends wanted me to live anymore. Why? Let’s discuss it. Guilt is one of the most commonly experienced emotions of grief and one of the least talked about. In my estimation, guilt is a universal symptom of grief; I’ve never met a griever that didn’t struggle with it in some capacity. Which begs the question – why didn’t someone warn me? Grief-related guilt can be…

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I Felt The Rain For The First Time

10 months ago I was in the emergency room for back pain and a bloated abdomen. After a routine CT and blood work I received the news. “You have cancer.” “What! How can this be? I do everything right. I eat clean. I exercise. I meditate. Why me?” As the doctor left and the nurse entered, keeping her distance from me, repeating “I am so sorry, I am so sorry.” I could feel her disbelief. My first…

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Guest Blog: Reconstructing Life

Written by guest blogger Kelly Farley Dads (and moms) tell me all the time they feel like they died when their child died. In a way they did.  Anyone who has lost a child or has gone through any profound life event will tell you that it’s not possible to go back to the person you used to be. Of course, many people keep trying to get their old life back, but it’s not possible. How can it be?…

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Guest Blog: Does Everything Happen for a Reason?

By Jess Pedersen, HHC (www.bemamabewell.com) As I reflect back on my forty-plus years, I’ve experienced numerous losses that I would consider intense and life-altering, including the loss of my grandmother when I was five, my grandfather at 16, and my father at 25. As a young child and teenager, I took the passing of grandparents very personally. I would often compare myself to my peers, who…

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Guest blog: The gift of loss by Brian Scrone

Our world is made up of contrast and one of the harshest realities of life is the gift of Gain and its unwelcome counterpart, Loss!!! As I grow and watch the world move around me, I realize more and more that nothing is permanent (with the exception of true Love). Everything, including life, is borrowed; and only our perception of time, and what is considered to be “normal” for us, is what…

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Guest blog: The face of chronic illness

We all recognize and respect the grief of others when they’ve lost a loved one. We know that whether the pain is visible or not, loss equals grief, and those who have not yet experienced that pain firsthand will at some point in their lives feel it. But there is also a profound sense of loss that accompanies chronic illness. While I have firsthand experience with the pain of loss, my daily life…

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Guest blog: Learning to look within

  We are all born with instincts that help us navigate through right and wrong. We are taught from a very young age what is okay and what is not. We live, learn, and we make mistakes. This is all human nature. But, as we get older, we begin to learn that what we are searching for is actually within us. When life throws us a curveball, and we are forced to deal with a bad situation, we are…

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Guest blog-I’ve Lost My Parents, But They’re Still Alive

Growing up there was a lot of partying going on in my house; I just thought that was normal. People were always over: dancing to music, relaxing in the hot tub, laughing, just having nonstop fun until the sun rises. I thought this must be how every family is - I take care of my little brother and they party. This is normal. Then as I grew up I realized this was far from the truth. It wasn’t…

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Guest blog: Getting to say goodbye-John Ryan

Growing up I didn’t have a lot of loss.   I was one of the few of my friends who had all four grandparents alive even after college.  I knew I was lucky and truly didn’t know what it was like to lose someone you love.  This fortune came to an end toward the end of the 2000’s.  Quickly I began to learn what loss was really about as each of my grandparent’s health began to deteriorate in their late…

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Guest Blog: The blood sugar solution-Mark Hyman, MD

What life threatening, life sapping, energy robbing condition affects one in every two Americans (that is EVERY OTHER person) including 80% of those overweight and up to 40% of normal weight people? What condition is responsible for more deaths from heart disease, cancer, high blood pressure, diabetes and dementia than anything else? What condition also causes acne, infertility, sexual…

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