“If life after loss was easy to walk into, everyone would already be there.
It takes more courage to re-enter life, than the courage it takes to sit back and grieve your life.
I know what you must be thinking.
How could life be harder than grief?
Well it really is difficult to live again, hope again and even laugh again, when everything has been taken from you.
Actually grief at this point is safer than life.
Wouldn’t you agree, that you would rather stay at home for days on end than put yourself in the midst of life?
And I don’t blame you. I agree with you. I did the exact same thing. But only when I reached out towards a new life, life reached out to me.
One thing that stood out was that I did not know who to be, how to be and what to do in this new life.
Living while you are grieving is a skill that you must re-acquire if you want your life back.
These life skills get de-activated when you have been hit by a devastating event.
The mistake people make is that they take these skills for granted.
You must learn to love again, to laugh again and above all, to trust that life can be good to you once again.
Who you once were, is no longer here.
Step out of the shadow of your past self and into the self that is emerging. And truly start over.
One question that will help you do that, is actually finding out who is the person within that has gotten you this far?
Are you ready to put that part of you in another room while the new you emerges?”
All my love