Tell Them Your Age

I am turning 45 years old today. And I am so cool. Ha, ha. I am so much cooler than I was when I was 40 or 35 or 30. You get the idea. Oh, my goodness how come nobody told me that you get better with age. Why is it that everyone hides their Read More

The YOU inside All of the Loss

Today I want to tell you how beautiful you are. How loss has not taken away your beauty. How it has not taken away your humor. Or your deep knowing of yourself. And above all, it has not taken YOU away from yourself. Even though it feels like it has. And yes you have lost Read More

Tiny Good Things

When I sit down to write to you I think of you and your life. I know we haven’t met before. We don’t know each other. But in many ways we do. And if you have been receiving these emails for a while our minds and hearts have been connecting every single week. When I Read More

The Ten Things I Know for Sure

The older I get the more I see. I see myself for who I am. The good. The bad. All of it. I see life and its depths. Maybe we shouldn’t die when we get older. Maybe we can do another 80 years and use the seeing we have acquired for good. I am certain Read More

I Will Not Behave Accordingly

I will not conform. Comply. Behave accordingly. Or go along with everyone else. I will not believe their opinions about the way life after loss should be. That it’s supposed to always be hard. Impossible. Nope. No, I will not. And neither will you. You will not go down on your knees to society’s approach Read More

Stay in…and Cry

Something just doesn’t feel right. You don’t want to go outside. Talk to friends. Clean your kitchen. Hang your clothes up. Shower even. You just want to do nothing. Don’t resist that feeling. No matter what expectations await you. No matter the responsibilities. The promises. The job. The kids. The laundry. Listen. Take the day Read More

The Hurricane That Lives Inside

Over the years I dealt with anger after loss in many different ways and continue to do so. What I didn’t realize until today is that I have developed a pretty detailed way to deal with it. Someone from my Life Starters community asked me about anger today. What do we do with it? How Read More

The Load

I read Lou Holtz’s words the other day. “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” (Click to Tweet!) I understood he knew a truth that so many of us don’t. The load is not what hurts but how we carry it over the years. What we do with Read More

Grief’s Grenades

I wish I had better news about what happens to our mind after loss. I wish I could say that when grief destroys everything the brain rejuvenates automatically. But the destruction grief causes our brain doesn’t go away on its own. Our brain does not bounce back and evolve without our help. My brain was Read More

The Sun Will Always Rise in the End

The waves are crashing at the shore. The sun is setting like a pro. But my life is not at all what I thought. It took me by surprise. The depths were one of a kind. It drew me in and spit me out. And I couldn’t come around. But we are not here to Read More

Christina Rasmussen

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