Cry the tough days out


You know those days that are so hard that you cannot even spit them out?

You know the days where you find yourself on the floor and you cannot even look up?

I know you have those days because I have them too,

even during the best years of my life.

Even during happiness.

And if you are sitting here thinking this letter is not for you,
then you better ask yourself:

‘What are you not looking at?’
What are you running away from?

You see our tough days are not here to make us look lost and helpless,
they are here to show to the world around us that we have a big heart.

That we are super human.
Super humans have a heart the size of Texas.

They cry their eyes out on tough days.

They also cry watching a sad movie.

They cry when someone says goodbye.

They even cry for something sad that has been left in the past.

I cried yesterday in front of my daughter.

And guess what? She smiled when she saw me cry.

She was glad I was sharing my heart with her.

She leaned over and gave me the biggest hug in the world while she kept smiling.

She was happy to help mommy get to a better day.

My tears were my bridge to my daughter.

I have always tried to hide my tears from the world around me.

But life after loss taught me something different.

It taught me to go ahead and have the tough days, to cry the tough days out.

Especially with our kids.

I hope today you share your tears with your daughter, your son and your world around you.

You have a superhuman heart in there don’t forget.

With tears,
Christina

Comments

  1. I share happy tears with anyone. But tears that come from being wounded I only share with people I trust. I’ve learned the hard way not to show my heart to people who won’t safeguard my vulnerability … or even value it.

  2. Christina, first I would like to thank you. You have shared many of my tears and saddest days, and the days when I did’nt want to go to the next day. I share my tears with my Daughter, and she with me. I share my tears, whether happy or sad with trusted friends. I’ve come a long way in the past 3 years, and you have helped me. You were like an Angel who popped onto my screen, knew how I felt, and eased my pain. At least I am looking forward now, let go of the past hurts , but Iam very cautious and not easy to give trust. God Bless my Daughter, and you, Christina.

  3. the tears you write about are so true sometimes
    i remember and thinking about are their beautiful faces,beautiful smiles,their laughs,
    but i still remember getting a big brown envelopes and there were three death certificates inside. it has been some time ago and there smiles and laughes and good times
    again. this never goes away
    i also hear the word “CLOSURE” used too often
    i would never use the word because i know how
    unfair and and almost offensive the only thing
    on this earth i can give them are my tears

  4. I needed this post today when it showed up on my twitter feed. I believe it was meant for me.

    Thank you for letting me know it is okay to have hard days. It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay.

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